For ages, people have been trying to decode the perfect formula for a relationship. Stacks of books have been written on the topic. Hundreds of movies have been released romanticizing it. Many people have given their lives for it. But what does it take? Is it love? Is it having destiny in your corner? Is it total surrender?
While it could be one or many of those things to some, it boils down to one basic principle for each sex. While Love is great to have, it’s ephemeral and will fade over time (in the “drowning/infatuation” sense) and it cannot carry a long-term relationship. Here’s what you need:
Men
Men need to be constantly reassured that they are doing a good job. Whether its in bed, at work, around the house, getting to a destination, or picking a restaurant, if you always tell your man he is doing a great job (honestly) then he will never look elsewhere. Men crave validation and like to be the source of comfort for a woman. The minute it stops, he will look for it elsewhere.
Women
Women need to feel appreciated and need to be given “units” of things. For example, a dozen roses is a unit. A diamond necklace is a unit. You “doing the dishes” is a unit. And no matter that you did before, whenever you need or want something, a new unit must be given. This form of appreciation makes her feel like she is worth a lot to the man and as long as he keeps doing things or offering units, it means he is interested. The minute it stops, she begins to feel taken for granted.
Seems simple right? It is. Especially once you bridge these with honest and clear communication. Trust me, that’s all you need to maintain a relationship. Now, whether you want to or not, or for how long you want to or not, is up to you.
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