What's On Kiev, an English language magazine in Ukraine, recently published an article about one woman's experience with a "mail order bride" agency. Her story offers a unique perspective on the controversial topic of international dating and shatters stereotypes about the women who look for love abroad. Here are a few common myths her story dismantles.
Ukrainian Women Are Desperate and Submissive
One of the most common stereotypes about women seeking love overseas is that they are meek, submissive creatures who are desperate to find (any) foreign man. This is illustrated by a gentleman named Richard who informs the author, Sasha, he is in the process of corresponding with three other women and will choose his favorite in a few months. Richard also tells Sasha when he wants to chat with her online and reprimands her when she misses the appointment due to work. It doesn’t occur to Richard that one of the women may not want him or that the ladies aren't obliged to follow his orders.
The Women Are Miserable, Need Rescuing
Another common myth about Russian and Ukrainian women is that they are poor and miserable in their home countries and that they long for a foreign man to save them. However, when one Lebanese man invited a Ukrainian lady to meet him on vacation he was “depressed” to discover that the lady was “not the inexperienced Ukrainian beauty he was hoping for; eager to travel and see life beyond that of Kyiv or its cozy Obukhiv highway hotels.” He was also astonished at the amount of money she carried. The author shatters another gentleman’s preconceptions when he learns that she enjoys her job as a secretary and has no plans of giving it up any time soon.
Women Get Paid to Chat with Foreigners
If the various anti-scam forums and blacklist websites are to be believed, most, if not all, agencies pay Russian and Ukrainian women to chat with men. However, when Sasha registers with an agency full of "young beauties" there is no mention of monetary compensation. The agency owner simply explains the service and interviews Sasha to determine what kind of man Sasha is hoping to find.
There are many myths about the Eastern European women who may or may not become "mail order brides," and Sasha's story does an excellent job of debuking these prevalent stereotypes. Intrigued? Read more of Sasha's fascinating tale.
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