Thanks to the rise of dating websites, and the overwhelming amount of options they bring, more and more singles are holding out for that “perfect” match. However, a quest for perfection isn’t doing you any favors.
“People who attempt to make the 'perfect' choice, whether it comes to buying a car or finding a partner, end up less satisfied, regardless of what or who they choose. That’s because they tend to look for flaws, and become disillusioned with all of their options," said Andy Trees, Ph.D. and author of A Scientific Guide to Successful Dating.
Now, I know some of you are thinking – “I refuse to settle!” or “I deserve the best!” However, no one’s suggesting you should settle for a lousy match just because he or she is there. No, dating experts like Andy Trees are simply arguing that no one’s perfect and you shouldn’t turn away a great, or even good match, simply because they lack a couple of items on your dating checklist. Quite frankly, the idea that dating and marrying an imperfect man or woman is “settling” is why many people end up bitter, alone, and not so happy.
While the idea of a soul mate or perfect match is romantic, it’s also dangerous as it tends to foster unrealistic expectations about falling in love. Nobody’s perfect and if you fixate on finding the mythical One you may just cheat yourself out of a great partner. There are many amazing, yet imperfect, men and women in this world. At least give them a chance to win your heart!
Source: CNN
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