What makes a happy couple? The woman in the lead? The man? Or is it a bit of both?
Maybe they're just different and politics shouldn't try to change it. Certainly, the sexes handle the dynamics of a relationship very differently. Men are taught to be more direct than women, and women seek harmony.
Why women give up
First, it is important to note that major problems usually occur after a woman feels that she has attempted many times to solve smaller problems. In many cases, women are the ones to initiate marriage counseling, or are often the ones at the book store buying self help books on relationship issues. Thus, women usually become fed up and do not believe that their partners have a sincere interest in solving the problems at hand. In response, a woman will take matters into her own hands, where she is likely seen as assuming a more dominant role in the relationship as usual.
What women really want
In relation to these accusations, the biggest reason that women file for divorce is “mental cruelty.” While often times these women are not being emotionally abused, they feel that the men in their lives have stopped communicating effectively with them and that their men are also acting indifferently towards them altogether. More so, sometimes women feel completely neglected by their husbands, because these husbands start talking to their wives less and stay away from home for longer periods of time, usually without the courtesy of a phone call!
Other common complaints that women have about their partners include being constantly ignored, having to deal with the man watching TV non-stop, slacking on phone calls to simply say “Hello” and ask his lady how his day is going, and not apologizing for hurting the woman’s feelings, while at the same time blaming her for being too sensitive.
Mars and Venus
Willard F. Harley Jr., Ph.D. often counsels men after women have confronted them with these and other similar issues. “I’ve proven to husbands over and over again that their wives usually do not expect too much of them, and when they understand and respond to their wives’ frustration, the complaining ends and a terrific marriage begins," he said. Harley added that women just want men to “focus their efforts in the right places and not make new ones.”
All most women really want is to find a soul-mate. What is that? A man who will listen, be trustworthy, and won’t make a decision without considering his lady’s feelings.
Do most women want to take the lead?
When a man takes all of these things into account, women are happy to let their partners truly take on the role of being the man. However, when she feels that he is not living up to his respective role, the woman will often begrudgingly take on that role herself. On the contrary, this is usually not the case if a woman feels emotionally connected to her partner.
In fact, experts say most women are thrilled when a man acts like a gentleman. This means opening doors and walking on the outside of the street.
In essence, many women feel that if men want to be men, they need to step up to the plate and act like it.
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