A recent study looked at what satisfied couples talked about. The results were a bit surprising.

Ten committed, cohabitating, happy couples wore microphones for two days. Their conversations were recorded and then grouped by thought. For instance, “I love you” and “I don’t want to discuss it right now” would be two different groups.

Interestingly, researchers found that the most frequent topic of conversation was me; myself and I. Couples talked about themselves 25 % of the time when speaking with their partners. They also discussed other people, television shows, and things they were doing. 

Couples in the study had little conflict, but whatever conflicts arose, fights were usually on the weekends.  Oddly, happy couples also had few positive statements, for example complimenting each other or expressing affection verbally.

One would expect happy couples to express more positivity and humor with each other.  It does take more to explain complex thoughts and ideas, but to just say “I love you”, is three simple words.

Couples use mundane conversations to maintain a relationship. For cohabitating couples communication becomes the heart of the relationship. Everything becomes a conversation, from the typical “How was your day” to the “What should we do for dinner”.  Everyday talks are what maintain the relationship.

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